This is what awaits you when you finally let go of crippling thoughts, words and actions that have been deceiving you of who you truly are.
Many people sink into victim consciousness after dealing with years of mental abuse, physical abuse, spiritual abuse, and/or self-inflicted destructive habits. This can continue to occur years after the events are remembered by the mind only choosing to remember the horrors, the injustice, and the shame endured.
When these minds finally feel they have had enough of these dysfunctional repetitive loops, conscious awareness of the opportunity to walk forward in dignity, magnanimity, and personal freedom shines through the open door of love without conditions and non-judgment. Once this new concept enlightens the mind, the person can finally heal.
Some people erroneously think that to allow themselves to heal means to invalidate what they have gone through. Nothing could be further from the truth.
The truth is, to continue to wallow in past abusive situations is to continue the past abuse by bringing it into the present time.
Have you ever begun a sentence with the words, “Ever since … this .. or that … happened to me, … I can’t … recover … heal … or do anything positive?”
Does the mantra, “I hate people,” remain decidedly stuck in your head?
This is giving the abusers of mind, body, and spirit fuel to continue destroying your life. On one hand, you want the abuse to stop. On the other hand, you might have identified with the abuse to the degree that without it, you do not know who you are without the constant memory of the abuse/self-infliction.
If this rings true for you, realize that human beings have a tendency to become self-absorbed. This can be a good trait if one is on a path to self-discovery, learning new things, and exploring possibilities in life. But it can also be a negative trait if one only allows the revolution of the mind to focus on the hurts, the insults, or the inadequacies of life to be the rock on which to build the future.
What you think about, you bring about. It begins with the thinking process. Do you want to heal? If so, decide to stop the self-destructive habits that are equal to shooting yourself in the foot, then complaining that you cannot walk or run, and boasting of that as a badge of honor.
Remember that it takes 21 days to change a habit. Be gentle with yourself. It has taken you all your life to be in the situation you are in at this moment. You can change it any time you decide to. If life situations compel you to be where you are in the same situation at this moment, nothing is stopping you from making new plans of possibility, getting a new job, taking a new class in a new subject, making new friends, or doing all of these things with a new positive attitude. Stay at it. Do not give up.
Life is what you make it. You can make it beautiful. How you do that is up to you.
Namaste