Who do people think they are hurting when they decide not to forgive someone? Is it to protect our own hurt feelings? Is it to teach the other person a lesson? The only lesson we will ever learn from not forgiving someone is that until we do, we are the ones continuing to hurt ourselves, not the other person. Not only that, by choosing non-love actions, we are also reassigning ourselves to yet another life cycle. This is the Great Law of Life.
Love is the answer to everything. Yes, there is such a thing as tough love. But that has a different impetus of the heart, which would be love, not vengeance nor retaliation.
The question is, how do we forgive anyone anything when they have upset us so much, or when the other person denies their hurtful actions, or even if the other person is no longer living?
Calm, honest discussions are always best. It is not necessary to be angry in order to prove a point. As a matter of fact, as upsetting as the situation is, drop the anger. Drop the drama. Anger never hurts the other person. It always hurts the one who is angry. Living with constant anger as the undertone of your life will reward you with the anger seeds you are planting by manifesting physical ailments. Have you ever wondered where your heartburn, indigestion, ulcers, palpitations, nervous breakdowns and the like are coming from?
All physical ailments have their roots in our mental, emotional, and spiritual bodies long before they ever settle in our physical bodies. That being the case, then how can we ever justify when children are either born sick or become sick?
Now we are getting to the meat of the matter, as the expression goes. No, God does not need any one of us, young or old, to be sick, nor does God need your loved one at any age for any reason in heaven. That is a lie people say when they do not know what to say, or how to comfort a broken heart.
This life is a school of learning life lessons. Those of us who have not learned what we needed to learn in past lives will return to this life again and again until we do. What lesson could a sick or dying child have to possibly teach us at their expense?
Prior to being born in this life, souls make contracts with others in their group whom they have reincarnated with in previous lifetimes, in order to help them learn by evolving in their love, empathy, and compassion. If we do not learn these eternal qualities in this life, we doom ourselves to repeat life cycles until we do.
Forgiveness is a part of human life. Forgiveness is part of loving. Forgiveness is not the same thing as condoning harmful, lying, cheating, or any other negative behavior. Forgiving is not whitewashing the fence of bad behavior and pretending it did not happen.
Forgiveness is a step in loving yourself. Forgiving others gives you freedom in mind, body, and spirit. There is no place in the human body for stress, anger, or any negative emotion. The lungs were made to store air, the stomach for food, and so on. But within the mind, body, and spirit, there is no place to store stress, panic, anger, rage, wrath, grief, and all other negative emotions.
What happens when we internalize negative emotions into our physical bodies is that we invite in disease, dysfunction, addiction, and mental and physical illness into our physical cells. That is the only place they have to manifest them. That is why addressing the symptoms, which are often thought of as the problem, and going back through counseling, which is actually working backwards, finally gets to the origin of the problem.
Instead of that lengthy and costly course of remedy, it is far better and quicker to deal with daily trauma head-on initially, intelligently, honestly, and calmly. Nothing good is served by trumped up chaos and drama. A lot of the time it is ourselves we have to forgive. Let forgiveness always begin with ourselves.
A good recommendation on the wheel of rebirth, which Jesus told us about in John 3:3, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born anew, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” Also check out 2 Corinthians 5:17 where it says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has passed away, behold, the new has come.”
Many people have spun the words of Jesus to their personal understanding, rather than keep on searching, also like Jesus taught in Mathew 7:7-12 where it says, “Keep asking, and it will be given to you. Keep searching, and you will find. Keep knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who searches finds, and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. What man among you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to those who ask Him! Therefore, whatever you want others to do for you, do also the same for them—this is the Law of the Prophets.”
Did you notice that Jesus says, “If you then, who are evil, know …?” Jesus is calling humankind evil, until we come to the knowledge which he taught, that you and I and every other human being has free will. By using our free will, we can come to understand that we can all become Christs in this lifetime, if we choose freedom over fear, and love over hate, which is another form of non-forgiveness. It is pure evil not to forgive, not to love.
Jesus taught us we are all called to be Christs. Remember, he said we will do the works he did, and even greater besides, in John 14:12. Jesus was not kidding, nor telling us to worship him. No, he was showing us The Way. As a matter of fact, in the days of Jesus, before the days of various religious denominations, those following Jesus Christ were known to be following The Way.
To be Christ is to identify with the I AM Presence, the Source of all I AM Presences in all of creation. There is no differences in God, only pure LOVE. LOVE is The Way. LOVE melts all difficulty and dysfunction into the eternal energy of continuous life. We are all connected to this Source of all Life through our own personal life stream, sometimes called the Silver Cord of Ecclesiastes 12:6-7 fame.
While we are alive, God is closer to us than our next breath. We can be as determined as we want to be, and as physically fit as humanly possible, but when our life has come to an end, our soul return to its Source.
Our reward for this particular lifetime well-lived, coming to know our I AM Presence, the Christ within ourselves, our life lived in union with LOVE without conditions is what our Ascension is all about. Jesus showed us The Way.
Let us take a moment today to look over our lives. There is nothing we can do to wipe away thoughts, words, and actions of the past. Regardless of whether others are living or passed on, we still have the freedom to forgive ourselves and others in the deep recesses of our hearts. If others are still alive, we have the freedom to make amends as possible. In some situations, especially for personal and emotional safety, it is not advisable to do this face to face. However, it is possible to forgive in the quiet moments of prayer and contemplation with all the LOVE our hearts can hold.
LOVE is the key.
Namaste